I was good in cooking but after marriage I make blunders in cooking. My in-laws said nothing but it’s being more than three years and I still make mistakes. This makes me mentally upset all the time. Can you help me?


Bismihi Ta‘ala

Respected Sister

Assalaamu ‘alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakaatuh

1. Speak to your mother-in-law very politely and humbly and tell her that unfortunately you are making these blunders. Request her to please guide you as to how to overcome them. By you doing this, insha-Allah she will feel happy and will also assist you and guide you, which will make your task easier. Furthermore, if you make any mistakes in future, she will insha-Allah be sympathetic and supportive. While acknowledging your mistakes and asking for help and guidance may seem that you are lowering yourself and may be looked down upon by others, the reality is that by humbling oneself for the pleasure of Allah Ta‘ala one becomes beloved in the sight of Allah Ta‘ala as well as among people.

2. More importantly, daily make du‘aa to Allah Ta‘ala and beg for His assistance.

3. Before commencing cooking recite Bismillah. Also engage in recitation of tasbeeh, durood shareef, etc. every now and again.

May Allah Ta‘ala assist you.

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Uswatul Muslimah Panel of ‘Ulama