Forced to Go to University

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I made lots of du‘aa that I do not go to a mixed university in my country. My mum insisted that I go and I have already completed a semester there though I hate the place! I feel suffocated but my parents forced me to go.

My question is: Although I made du‘aa, I am still going there. Did Allah want me to go there? Why would He want me to go to such a place? Is He angry with me?

I have always wanted to become an ‘aalimah. Please enlighten me. I am feeling so lost.

Answer:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

Respected Sister

Firstly, we commend you on the hatred that you have for a filthy environment. May Allah Ta‘ala save you from all places of vice and sin.

Secondly, one needs to understand that du‘aa must be accompanied with the proper procedure. Allah Ta‘ala then grants blessings in that effort and makes things easy. If a person keeps making du‘aa to not get burnt, yet deliberately puts his hand in the fire, obviously he will personally be responsible for this choice.

The correct procedure in this case was to very respectfully not give in to the pressure to go to university. This may have brought some challenges. However, by continuing with du‘aa and remaining steadfast in the face of the challenge, Allah Ta‘ala’s help would come and create ease. It nevertheless requires one to remain patient.

Try to convince your parents to allow you to study Deen. If that fails, ask to study via correspondence. For now, the least you can do is to totally fail all the subjects so that you are automatically sent out.

Keep making istighfaar excessively. Insha Allah, you will be given a way out.

Was Salaam

Answered by:

Uswatul Muslimah Panel of ‘Ulama