Question:
Assalaamu ‘alaikum
Alhamdulillah, I have three boys whom I love very much, yet I feel unable to give them the love, attention and care they deserve. I do not know what to do. I love my children more than anything, but I struggle to show or express that love. When they are away from me, I cry and miss them, yet when they are with me I become angry and shout at them. Afterwards, I feel deep regret for treating them in this manner.
They are very stubborn and do not listen to me, which increases my anger until I lose control over myself. What should I do to become a good, loving and caring mother, and to provide my children with a good upbringing and sound manners?
Answer:
Bismihi Ta‘ala
Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh
Respected Sister
Perform two raka‘aat of salaah daily and make du‘aa for your children. Do not act upon anger without thinking carefully about the consequences it may bring. Many failures in life occur as a result of acting without reflection and restraint.
And Allah Ta‘ala knows best
Answered by:
Uswatul Muslimah Panel of ‘Ulama